“They want
to paint you the color of smashed hymens.”
Words are so strong and REAL. Words can
touch, heal, love and build. Words form these feelings from, “I love you,” to “I
hate you.” Words can do so much! They can take you to a whole new place or keep you right there.
As it has been proven as more cases
become popular of how bullies can hurt people and even cause suicide. This has
become such a huge issue now. And you would think that bullies only happen in school and not elsewhere. Wrong. Bullying occurs in college, the work place and
even at home. Just know you’re not alone. You can get help and you are
valuable.
We forget to realize that people are breathing creatures that
have feelings, ideas and hope. We forget that we’re capable of our own
destruction and other’s destructions. We forget that we’re REAL. We’re not just
someone behind a computer screen. We’re not just there, we’re thumping hearts
and sweating bodies.
I want to address these issues of blaming victims.
Can we stop? Why do we have to fight for our respect? Why can
we not just already HAVE it? Were we not born human beings? Are we just our genitals? Are we?
I’m just so done with people calling others sluts. What does
someone’s behavior in their bedroom have to do with you? So what they’re
sexually active. So what they’ve had multiple partners. So, what?! It’s their
body, they can do what they want. As long as they are responsible, it shouldn’t
matter. It doesn’t matter how many people you sleep with. It doesn’t matter. If
both parties are willing contestants, go for it.
I can go off on personal experience. I am “That Girl.” That
girl some guys would just rather sleep with than love. I have been the victim
where other girls, my peers, have called me terrible names and joked about me
for being with a guy. But, why? I
was being shamed for one night. I get objectified for having large breasts and
a vagina. Why?
Because to society I’m not good enough. Because to you, I’m
just a place where you can stick your dignity in and walk on and have as a tally mark on your bed post. Because to them, I’m
just THAT GIRL who doesn’t care. Because to all, I am just there.
But, I’m here to tell you, I’m not. I’m a person that’s a
survivor. I’m a person who woke up and realized I’m more than just, “that
slut.” I’m more than just that girl who got raped. I’m not that girl who asked for
it. I’m not just that girl who only gets objectified for having a
sparkling vagina.
I’m a girl who can break away from social norms and just be
me. I am willing to be different. I’m willing to be free.
I’m going to walk on out and do what I please. Because I’m
worth it. Because I am free. Because I am me. I’m not you, your mom or your
dad. I am me. I don’t have to answer to you or to your
so-called-must-be’s. Because I am me.
And don’t forget you are you. You’re beautiful. You’re
perfect. You’re not a victim. You’re a survivor. You’re you.
I wish someone told me this. I wish someone told the hurt me
that, “Hey, it’s okay to be hurt.” It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be locked up
in a cage and be constantly hurt. Because you can do this and get out.
You’re worth waking up to and fighting for. Because you’re you.
I wish someone said to me, “They just don’t know.” Just like
what Jesus said.
But some now do. My friends. My loves. My family. They know. They'll always know and they'll always be there, even when it seems like they won't.
Everyone needs to be educated and must know. IT’S NOT OKAY TO
BLAME THE VICTIM. Because they apparently deserved it. Because she wears too
much makeup. Because he wears tight pants. Because clothes are clothes. Rape is
rape. It is wrong. Bullying is bullying. It is wrong.
IT’S NOT OKAY TO HURT SOMEONE WITH WORDS.
IT’S NOT FRIGGIN’ OKAY TO CALL SOMEONE A SLUT. WHORE. SKANK.
BITCH. IT’S NOT OKAY!
Because words hurt.
Words can cut deep and leave red marks on wrists and veins.
They can make little girls cry and big men weep.
Because they’re words and they’re just as real as you and me.
Here are some awesome videos:
I love you,
Drey
P.S. I hope you read this and realize that words are just as important as you and me. That you learned that it's not okay to slut shame, victim shame or just hurt others for something that wasn't their fault. And if you didn't get that... I hope you at least got something from this. So please, it's just not okay to hurt.
