You know how they say, “Carpe natibus (Seize the ass)?” Okay, so
people don’t actually say that. However, there is this trend in society that we
should go, “Get that!” or, “Get on that ass!”
We shouldn’t though. We shouldn’t have to objectify other
human beings into sex objects and things of no respect. We should love one
another and treat them as humans—as people that are capable of more than just
sex. I mean, all of us have so much more to offer than our genitals. As much as
sex is just sex, there’s more to life than just sex. There’s happiness, passion
and enjoyment to be found in one another. We should look for that. Next time
you see a girl or a boy and think, “Damn, the things I would do…” Also think
about what that person could do too. Think about what that person may offer you
other than their bodies. In the end, our bodies are great to have, but our mind
and souls can have so much more to contribute. All the greats in this world are
remembered for more than just the physical.
Think of Ghandi, he had so much more to give to us than just
his skinny body. He gave us a revolution, an idea to be treated equally. Think
of Katharine Hepburn who paved the way for us women to do whatever we want and
be whoever we want. Think of Einstein who gave us his mind and greatness. Just
think of that.
We’re all great people with so much more to offer. I know I
seem like such an optimist, but it’s true! And to be quite honest, I’m sick of
being objectified. I’m sick of men constantly telling me, “You’re so hot,” or,
“I want to fuck you,” or, “I lust after you.”
Recently, I’ve had several guys tell me that. I mean, I guess
I am flattered… But, is that all I am good for? Certainly not. I’m not just
some candy or something you can just pick up and use then throw away. I’m a
human being that has a sparkling personality and can be quite compassionate
(sometimes).
A couple of weeks ago, I went out with some friends. We had a merry time. It was great until one of them started hitting on me and
telling me all these things I never knew before. Things like, “I’m attracted to
you,” and, “We should fuck,” eventually he actually came onto me and tried to
take advantage of me. And I thought this guy was my good friend and he also has
a girlfriend. Needless to say, I was hurt.
And honestly, that night I wasn't wearing a sexy outfit. So
the excuse that, "Oh, it's because you were dressed seductively or were
suggestive," is completely wrong. I was wearing a T- Shirt, shorts and
flip- flops. Also, the whole time I was sitting with a seat in between us and
no body contact was made.
So, a few days ago a guy I met on a trip messaged me and told
me, "I lusted at you," and, "You tempted me," and other
things. How am I supposed to respond? Admittedly, I did feel an attraction...I
just didn't feel comfortable. And to be quite honest, I was quite upset about
the whole thing; how did I tempt? I never suggested anything and I never made
any sexy eyes or anything. I just don't understand how my body language can be
translated to being sensual. I've been told that I appear sensual... I guess,
that's just my body language. The point is, it bothered me that he was telling
me all of this now and that he never bothered to get to know me. Or rather, to
get me to trust him or for him to trust me. Not that I would actually trust
him. I mean, I can't trust someone after knowing a person for a week.
In every relationship there has to be trust and an
understanding. The people involved in any sort of relationship have to be on
the same page with one another and not hold anything back from one another.
That's what makes things successful. That's why I am such a huge advocate for
honesty.
I just hope you take away the fact that people are people not
vibrators or dildos. They're living humans that have so much to offer and not
to be taken for granted. They're incredible beings that deserve to be loved not
objectified.
With Doting,
Drey
Henry is so handsome.
